Breaking Life's Cycle: Getting Free From Destructive Patterns
Pastor Norman Curlee, Word Alive
Many times when negative and self-destructive patterns are part of our life choices, we often do not consider the “stake holders” who are being impacted by our poor choices. Sometimes these individuals may not have the skills necessary to help us. Therefore, they come across as being too difficult or not understanding, yet their heart’s desire is to see us free from the negative behavior patterns. If you are being impacted by someone who is continually engaging in destructive patterns in their life, I suggest you consider the following approaches in trusting God for their breakthrough:
1. Consider where they are in their relationship with Christ and pray accordingly: The only remedy for “sin” is grace. Therefore, the saving grace of God is the entrance into the arena of power that overcomes any condition in life. (Eph. 2:1-10)
2. Connect with others who have skills and proven success in dealing with suchmatters: The Bible speaks of the benefit of Godly counsel and the benefit it brings to life. (Psalm 1:1-3)
3. Commitment to a role of healthy involvement and not of an enabler: Sometime we can mean well, but we may be hindering what God is bringing to past through his loving discipline (Prov. 3:11-12). If you have to endure having to live with the impact of negative patterns of others, know that God is there to keep you in a state of peace while you are interceding in prayer on the behalf of that person(s). Galatians 6:9 (NIV) says, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.