The Door Beyond Loneliness
Pastor Norman Curlee, Word Alive Church
Psalm 25:16 David prays to God saying, “Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am LONELY and afflicted.” Could you imagine a man after God’s on heart (1 Sam. 13:14; Acts 13:22) and a great king and warrior like David identifying a time of experiencing loneliness in his life. The truth of the matter is that loneliness does not discriminate. It is part of the human experience that results from the fall of mankind in the Garden of Eden. Prior to the fall, Adam and God had great fellowship, but the Creator new that human beings need other humans if they are to get along effectively. So God created Eve and instructed the couple to be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth (Gen. 1:28). The first human beings get to enjoy fellowship with God and with each other. But as mentioned earlier, sin entered the scene of the human experience and now the two who had never known loneliness, now has to manage life by trusting God to be their answer in times of loneliness.
Loneliness is that painful emotion that reminds us of the importance of human communication, contact and camaraderie. However, there are factors that often make this a desire of one’s heart, not a lived out reality. A number of factors can lead to loneliness from social, developmental, psychological and even spiritual in nature. Regardless of the causes and symptoms of loneliness, God has a way of escape. In 1 Cor. 10:13 the word of God says, “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”
So when feelings and thoughts of loneliness produce emotions of fear, despair, hopelessness, low self-esteem, worthlessness, entrapment, a need to seek attention in various forms in order to find acceptance or to overcome loneliness and even painful suicidal thoughts, don’t allow these dark moments or memories to be your dwelling place. Turn on the light of God’s word and allow his grace and power to aid you in times of loneliness. Below are a few wisdom nuggets in addressing loneliness and perhaps even connecting with a trusted and trained professional could be a great investment for your future success:
Remember God is present regardless of one’s pain (Hebrews 13:5-6; Psalm 46:1)
Develop an intimate relationship with God (Proverbs 18:24: James 4:8)
Pray for God to lead you to building strong relationships with a few trusting friends (Prov. 17:17; James 5:16)
Faithfully connect to a local fellowship of believers and intentionally find a place to serve alongside others (Hebrews 10:24-25).
Remember, you are not alone in moments or experiences of loneliness. We all have traveled this path before. God is waiting for you to cast this care or concern on him (Psalm 55:22; 1 Peter 5:7). He will encourage your heart and help you to encourage others whom you meet on the path of loneliness.